By: Jhoanna B. de Guzman
Have you ever felt that you were being controlled by your emotions? Are you constantly relying on your feelings? Are you becoming reactive rather than proactive in terms of whatever life throws at you?
“A fool expresses all his emotions, but a wise person controls them.” – Proverbs 29:11
To have an intrinsic security and not live defeated by one’s emotions is something that everyone aspires to, but no one has ever worked hard for. Every day, life happens and sometimes we just find ourselves gliding with the tide. We are happy when something good happens, grateful when we were blessed, full of resentment when someone opposes us, and devastated when life seems hard.
Of course, it’s never easy to control one’s emotions; everyone has their own right to be vulnerable. Even psychologists point out that being overwhelmed is normal; you can cry and weep, you are allowed to feel. But if done excessively, it becomes unhealthy.
If you get hurt, every aspect of your life is affected. When you are affected by an inevitable circumstance, everything seems to fall apart. Perhaps you were emotionally wounded, and everything felt shattered. You function based on the behaviours of other people, responding to everything and never filtering out what’s necessary. You have no power because other people are pulling the strings. But then, in a world where people react to everything, be someone who learns to step back, pray and reflect.
True enough, it will never be an easy leap; it will be a real hard battle – every day is a constant war between the head and the heart. But believe that God is telling us that, relying on our emotions heavily is not an act of faith and belief. There is a proper time to use one’s head, and a proper time to use one’s heart. Seldom will they be complementary.
Being emotionally strong though isn’t about acting tough; it’s about acting according to one’s values. Let’s not give away our power. Think of it as the enemy’s way to distract us, emotions – whether they are positive or negative – can drag us down. Too much happiness can make us live our lives in extreme complacency, and unwarranted sadness will lead to misery. Logic matters more than emotions. You are your own being; you are not your emotions. Do not feed your emotions too much. Stop watering things that aren’t meant to grow in your life.